So when we learn that pole-dancing classes are being offered to 7-year-olds, even a conservative like Cody automatically blames fathers for failing in their parental obligations. In fact, we have every reason to believe that the women who think there’s no harm in teaching pole-dancing to 7-year-olds are single mothers, and that the only role fathers have ever had in the lives of these young girls was (a) as sperm donors and (b) as payers of child-support.Amusing, since one of my birthday gifts was the Ann Coulter book he mentions earlier in the post: Guilty. And I gleefully devoured it, despite nasty glares from other passengers on my commuter train. And he makes a good point--a lot of women who are ok with pole dancing are probably feminazi single mothers.
And to our “young American” friend Cody, then, I offer this helpful advice: Read more Ann Coulter books!
But it's not so simple as to just blame dads or single mothers, and I suppose I should have made that a little clearer. I've seen too many fathers who take their families to church and yet roll over and allow their wives to dress their daughters up like harlots. Men need to start standing up and reasserting themselves as men, not as metrosexual sperm donors. That means being the head of their family and teaching their daughters how to dress appropriately.
And McCain is right to blame feminism, because it's at the root of both the sexualization of little girls (oddly enough for a movement that seeks to "deobjectify" women) and the shirking of dads. As one of my college professors put it (or someone else brilliant, it escapes my mind at the moment) "Feminism insisted men were unnecessary, and men were only too happy to oblige." Uncommitted sex? Heck, that's what men have been looking for since creation! No obligation to grow up and be a dad? Right on! I can stay 16 forever, sleep with whoever I want, and just pay the alimony if I get caught. Thus the single mother culture where a bunch of women who slept around now are raising children (a setup guaranteed to produce, uh, interesting results)
But even if men do get married, often they're so neutered it's the women who wear the pants in the family, not the husband. Look at any television commercial and you'll see it overtly played out. Hubby is a buffoon. The wife is the smart one. She's the one really in charge. Hubby only thinks he is.
All of that to say, single mothers shouldn't be let off the hook, but neither should dads. In the past, it was the men who religiously guarded the chastity of the women in their lives. You could be killed, or at least get the crap beaten out of you, if you insinuated a woman was less than pure. Today, dads happily trot out their daughters dressed in miniskirts, plummeting tops, and streetwalker heels. Sometimes it's because they were browbeaten by their wives ("You're so old fashioned! Do you want our daughter to be ridiculed?! Everyone else is wearing it!") after putting up a weak protest ("Are you sure you should go out in that?"). Sometimes they take some strange kind of pride in the fact that their daughters are being looked over like a cut of beef at a butcher's. Either way, it's still deplorable.
So, Mr. McCain. I agree with you: single moms--and even mothers in general--are often to blame. But dads need to shoulder the load too. They should be the head of the family. Not gutless, nutless, pansies or bedhopping ATMs. Now if you'll excuse me, I have some Coulter to read.